ep01: my story with fadzi whande
Fadzi Whande, Global Diversity and Inclusion Strategist, shares her story of abuse of power and her process to discover the value she holds. She is now a champion for many in her nation of Perth, Australia and around the world.
ep02: my story with Annette Dickens
Growing up in North Carolina in the 60’s and 70’s, Annette shares her story of traumatizing racial prejudice. Can you imagine waking up to a burnt KKK cross with cards covering your lawn saying the “‘KKK was out to get you?”
ep03: my story with Karley Daniel
As Karly shares her story she says, “You have to come to peace with your broken pieces.” The majority of Karly’s childhood was filled with the broken pieces of abandonment, neglect, and abuse. How could she come to peace in the midst of such suffering?
ep04: my story with Justin Tucker
Rarely do you hear a story of drugs, gangs, violence, and fear and find a young man whose life exemplifies hope and purpose. What led Justin Tucker to see his worth, his potential, and soften his heart for those hurting from the pain of their past?
ep05: my story with Rose Thomas
Rose experienced many instances of trauma, abusive relationships, and rape. She believed herself to be ugly knowing she would never be loved. She hated herself as depression, anxiety, and self-harm were her outlets for her anger. She later learned that it was not what happened to her but her thought patterns that were her greatest enemy. Today, however, we see a “rose” who has bloomed into a beautiful value-generator reaching out to those who face trauma and disaster.
ep06: my story with Harold Williams
From childhood it seemed that Harold was marked as the one who would never fit in or be accepted. This carried into his twenties where leaders used their position, platform, and authority to control, manipulate, and abuse their power; offering a pseudo success. He shares how he “drank the Kool-Aid” and “sold his soul” to obtain success and connection. This is an amazing story of healing, true success both personally and professionally, and the beautiful opportunities he has to model power used for good.
ep07: my story with Jason Ottley
Jason’s story reveals the lifelong struggle of not being validated. He says, “It does no good to be represented culturally if your voice has no value, power, or privilege. You are nothing more than a cultural representation.” Don’t miss this message of advocacy for voices that are not being heard.
ep08: The Science of Value
Today’s podcast is the first in a four-part series of interviews with Peter Demarest, an expert in the science of Axiogenics, which is the mind-brain science of value generation. He has influenced my life greatly through his book, “Answering the Central Question: How Science reveals the keys to success in life, love, and leadership.”
ep09: Don’t Let Bias Run the Show
Devaluation always has negative impact while validation always brings health . Today’s podcast we will learn about how our biases ‘run the show.’ We’ll learn the antidote to stopping something is to start something. We’ll learn the power of asking the right question, “What choice can I make and action can I take in this moment to create the greatest net value?”
ep10: Prejudice, Evil, & Unjust Actions
Is it possible to see a person’s intrinsic worth when their actions are bad, evil, or unjust. Prejudice and subconscious biases influence our emotions, decisions and behaviors, is there a way for a person to transcend these biases and minimize their effect?
ep11: Validation & the Political Divides
Science tells us that if we continue down the path of divisiveness and devaluation of one group or another ultimately it leads to the complete and utter destruction of all of us. The scientific fact reveals when we allow every form of prejudice, hatred and devaluation unchecked, it becomes self-destructive. This episode will discuss the topic of politics through the science of values-generation. Without the ability to intrinsically love there can be no healing.
ep12: My Story with Larry Putney
Larry’s MY STORY reveals the painful experiences of his parent’s divorce, bullying, and depression. Life events formed mindsets of devaluing self-worth and lack of self-confidence in this young man’s mind. His story leads to confidence and maturity as a husband, business leader, and community influencer.
ep12B: Race Consciousness Interview with Dr. Todd Mealy
Every leader, influencer, and societal architect that has a heart to see our nations heal should listen and apply this knowledge in their sphere of influence. Dr. Todd Mealy is a history author holding his Ph.D from Penn State University. He is the Director of Equity and Instruction at The Bond Educational Group. Dr. Mealy is taking steps to launch the Equity Institute for Race Conscious Pedagogy, LLC to advance scholarship in race-centered learning while advocating for social justice. He has been an educator since 2001 and is an adjunct professor in the History Department of Dickinson College. You will learn from his knowledge but also from heart to #StopDevaluation
ep13: My Story with Justin Murrell
Our past experiences want to define us screaming lies, “I will never be good enough.” Justin shares, “I was in an at-risk structure but connected to some people who invested into me. They helped me change my life and now my journey is to do the same and recreate what has happened in my life through different parts of my city.” Justin’s story reveals the ability to destroy the box society tried to put him in making a difference to those living in his former reality.
ep14: The Author’s Show Interview
Dr. Melodye Hilton, author of Unmasking Prejudice: Silencing the Internal Voice of Bigotry, was interviewed by Linda Thompson of The Author’s show. This book was the inspiration to launch the #StopDevaluation movement.
ep14B: MY STORY with Brent Pedro
Brent Pedro (Trinidad and Tobago) shares his story of devaluation through bullying and all the lies that led to suicide attempts, but then the power of validation to shift his perspectives and become a value-generator in the lives of others.
ep15: My Story with Sheila Katusiime
Shiela Katusiime, born and raised in Uganda, shares her open and authentic story of devaluation. It wasn’t until she was 32 years old that she was challenged to see her value. She now has found her voice and contribution to the world as she invests in a young generation.
ep15B: MY STORY with Elizabeth Forbes
Elizabeth Forbes shares her story of loss, sexual assault, and the lies of self-devaluation. Her life was reshaped as individuals saw and communicated value to her leading her into her present vocation as a guidance counselor in Maryland’s public school system. She now offers support and hope for those who have experienced trauma and are suffering with the lies she once believed.
ep16: MY STORY with Eloise Grobbelaar
In today’s episode we will talk with Eloise Grobbelaar who speaks from her own struggles with self-worth when she says, “When you do not find validation in the right places, you will look for it, in all the wrong places.” Growing up in South Africa in the midst of the apartheid, and later moving to the UK with her husband, she found herself working with special needs children and, in the process, learned powerful principles that apply to every child, teenager, and adult.
ep16-B: My Story with Kevin Ikeda
Kevin Ikeda, a successful and influential businessman, shares his story of failure and devaluation. His transparency and authenticity will touch your heart and his wisdom will bring hope to the vision you hold.
ep17: MY STORY with Ahelya Vargas
Emotional manipulation along with verbal and physical abuse has the power to scar the soul and render one powerless. The crippling fear to reach out for help silences the voice as confidence is lost in the sea of shame. Ahelya Vargas’ moving story will touch your heart and reveal the power that unconditional love and safety carries to rescue the broken.
ep17B: Black History & Cellular Memory with Louis Dickens
Gaining knowledge and the wisdom to apply that knowledge empowers us to compassionately be a voice of validation to those hurting from racial prejudice. If you desire to understand a race or a culture, then it is important to know the historical facts which support a collaborative voice of healing to our world. Louis Dickens reveals the painful black history and solutions for healing. If you are a white person and genuinely care, you must hear this interview. Louis and Dr. Melodye have partnered together and modeled diversity and inclusion on a deep heart level for twenty years.
Note: explicit adult description of black history and slavery
ep18: My Story with josiah Centeno
Without connection we can spend our lives trying to fill the void inside of us, often in harmful ways. On today’s episode Josiah Centeno shares his story, the lies that encompassed his thoughts, the fear that drove him, and the simple exchanges of life that brought healing.
EP18-B: My Story Interview with Will Ford
What story line are you going to be a part of? Will Ford’s powerful and poignant life story will astound you. Will has traveled the nation for twenty years with a kettle pot owned by his ancestors. This treasure was passed down to him along with the horror stories of slavery and his family’s suffering at the hands of their slave owners. Yet, this amazing man focuses on racial reconciliation and challenges all of humanity to bring healing to the divides for the sake of future generations. Get out the tissues, this is a story you must hear!
EP19: The Culture of Validation with Denise DeCou
On today’s podcast the courageous Denise DeCou has made it her life’s work and her personal practice to generate value and provide resources to bring awareness, understanding, and the practical how tos to kindly address the prejudices and assumptions that arise in everyday encounters. You will hear simple and practical steps to be a part of the solution. This episode is one you do not want to miss.
EP19-B: Culture of Validation Interview with Fadzi Whande
The product of authentic inclusion is belonging! Fadzi Whande, a Global Diversity and Inclusion Specialist shares why race matters and how to bring solutions to the table promoting inclusion, healing, and positive change. If you have a heart to be a difference-maker you will learn how to show up generating value in others.
EP20: My Story Interview with Denise DeCou
In this episode Denise DeCou shares her story of growing up multiracial and multicultural. This presented her with unique challenges, which she calls a “bag of burdens.” She also learned many life lessons positioning her to be a voice championing diversity, equality, and inclusion.
EP20-B: Emotional Health in Chaotic Times with Rhonda Lynn, Therapist
What a powerful interview with therapist, Rhonda Lynn. She shares her story and how she found her calling to help both children and adults find healing from trauma. You’ll learn about trans-generational trauma and PTSD and powerful steps of healing that you can apply to your life today, including physiological education, how to handle triggers of trauma, emotional regulations, and cognitive coping. In the middle of the complex challenges our world, there is great hope for healing.
EP20-C: The War of Divided Hearts
A new series launched on the #StopDevaluation podcast channel entitled: Melodye’s Monlogue.
If we disallow diversity of thought and speech we can destroy our nation from within. However, the more self-aware we are the better decisions we make and the healthier our conversations. Melodye provides thought-provoking self-assessment questions to develop the art championing diverse thought.
EP20-D: Is Power Evil?
Power has become a dirty word labeled by many as evil. Melodye speaks into platforms of power and brings a balanced perspective.
EP21: My Story Interview with Jack Hoke
Who are our role models? Who do we want to emulate? When we search for human connecting and find that acceptance through someone who attitudes and behaviors are destructive, it becomes easy to justify their behaviors by following their example. In this episode we hear the MY STORY of Jack Hoke who gained his sense of worth in all the wrong places. From addictions, criminality, and dealing drugs Jack found a void inside that nothing could fill. His journey led him to AA and a new role model. Today Jack’s goal in life is to be a “hope dealer” and go to places others fear to tread.
Update: Just three months after this interview Jack passed away. A horribly sad loss.
EP21-A: What Defines You?
It’s not what happens to us but IN us that directs the trajectory of our lives. Melodye briefly shares how she believed lies about herself and how here identity was redefined.
EP21-B: Why Riots and Violence
In the middle of the ‘why’ we must see ‘what’ and ‘who’ riots and violence harms. Violence generates fear and its results are counterproductive. Hear Melodye’s monologue to hear the importance of justice-power used for good and not for harm.
EP22: Culture of Validation with Dr. Jason Ottley
Today’s episode entitled “From Inequity to Equity” is from the founder of The Bond Educational Group, Dr. Jason Ottley. This amazing pioneer works alongside teachers and administrators who serve all communities, but particularly communities of color. His passion, heart, and strategic solutions will both inspire and empower you. To be a part of the solution we must first become aware, open our hearts to understand, and then be willing to respond appropriately.
EP22A: Freedom of Speech
Melodye remembers the day of when different views were championed and relationships were never divided because of extreme contrasts. We can bring civility back to independent thought. She brings powerful self-assessment questions to cross the divides through validation.
EP22B: Freedom vs Tyranny
Melodye’s Monologue speaks to the responsibility of every citizen to be a voice of justice. When individual freedoms are limited and voices are silenced, it results in the opposite of freedom. When every citizen is bound to an equal (or the appearance of an equal) outcome controlled by an elite power structure, the people become stripped of their own power and individual value.
EP23: MY STORY WITH NIQUIO VALCOBERO
On Today’s episode Niquio Benjo Valcobero shares his childhood hurts, disappointments, and fears but also the power of the one who saw his worth and his potential. This mentor placed a demand on the amazing gift he held and now Niquio is impacting and mentoring people globally.
EP24: MY STORY WITH CAROLINE JOHNSTON
Caroline Johnston will share life experiences that distorted her perspective and the fears she faced growing up in war-torn Northern Ireland.
EP25: MY STORY WITH CLYDE LEWIS
Clyde Lewis’ life was riddled with domestic violence, poverty, and fear. When labeled with a learning disability, the false belief of ‘not being good enough’ was sadly reinforced confirming to him that he would never succeed. Hear how a group of lawyers and Jesuits helped to reshape his life in order to become a value-generator and identity builder.
EP26: MY STORY WITH ERNEST CRIM III
In today’s episode Ernest Crim shares his life experiences growing up on the south side of Chicago and how a hate crime became a defining moment motivating him to lift his voice and bring solutions to a generation. Ernest is a speaker, radio commentator, writer, activist and an award winning high school social science instructor. Ernest hopes to use his life experiences to inspire others to fight injustice, educate and empower themselves, and resolve conflicts appropriately.
EP27: MY STORY WITH MARCUS DYGERT
Marcus Dygert’s story reveals hardship from childhood throughout his young adult life more heartbreaking than most of us could ever imagine, yet he has overcome. Marcus not only became successful in business but now travels nationally and internationally valuing others and bringing hope.
EP28: MY STORY WITH ANDREA HINSON
In the episode Andrea Hinson shares the identity battle she faced living with prejudice from two very different worlds. She learned to show up differently trying to fit in until an educator saw and affirmed her potential. This powerful story is filled with so many poignant stories of the those treated as insignificant and drawing them into a validating community.